The life is incomplete without a spouse, the search starts when you attain the maturity. Finally a day comes, when a boy and a girl are tied on the knot of marriage. The end of this cherished moment is the departure of the bride from her paternal home for the matrimonial home, most popularly known as vidai.
How the Ritual is performed?
The parents and other family members of the bride accompany her to the door of the house. Just before the touching the doorstep, the bride throws a few handfuls of rice according to her prevailing custom. The rice should fall inside the house. This is the symbol of giving the dues of her parents which she has received till date.
Significance of Throwing Rice
In Indian society, the girls are assumed to be just the Goddess Lakshmi. Their leaving home after marriage is considered to be leaving of goddess Lakshmi. This must be compensated by gifting something to the family. The throwing of rice is done to keep the prosperity as well as wealth intact in the family or home.
The Moment of Mixed Emotions
The vidai is the ritual which is performed during leaving of home by the bride where she was born, brought up, played with brothers and sisters, studied and attained the age of maturity. Now after marriage, she has to leave this home for the rest of her life. Can the tears be stopped at this moment? Certainly “No” so, the tears are flowing naturally through the eyes of everyone present there, because she bid a last farewell to her family members as well as friends.
At the same time, after leaving the parental home, the bride reaches to her matrimonial house, where she has to spend her remaining life and setting a up a family along with her beloved spouse. So, at this moment she has some dreams of her new (coming) life. All her family members, friends and guests wish her a happy married life and happiness throughout the life.
Different Names of Vidai Ceremony
Though the ritual of vidai is similar in various customs, it is known by different names. The Sikhs call it doli. In olden days, when the motorised vehicles were not there, a palanquin (or doli) was used to carry the bride and groom as well as the members of the royal family. The men used to take the load of the occupant of palanquin on their shoulders and it moved from one place to other by them. In modern times, the carrying of bride and groom is done is done in motorised vehicles. The vehicle is decorated in the same wedding theme as it was done for doli in olden days. The name doli is still used for vidai ceremony. The Muslims call the vidai ceremony the ‘Rukhsati’.
The vidai the last ritual held at the bride’s home and it makes her a new image of wife, daughter-in-law, sister-in-law etc. in the house of her husband. The girl a ‘paraya dhan’ is taken to her permanent home.